Once in a while I write a small article under the name “CASUAL THOUGHTS”. I just write down the ideas and thoughts, which flow through me and offer them to you, my friends like FOOD. You can reject it or taste it. If you like it, you can eat it, but even then, you can choose to keep and use what is beneficial for you at the moment and simply release the rest, because the shortest way to your destiny is your own path.
Some people have told me that that “being happy” is just a matter of taking the decision to be happy. In a certain way I agree, but it seems a little bit too simple for me. Although I can understand that a decision must be made, I wonder what kind of decision that would be. Everybody probably has experienced “being happy” on a few occasions in his/her life, so when we can recall and relive the feeling of “being happy”, we are happy again.
However, I am still missing something. It is as if I have to travel every time to the feeling of “happiness”, instead of “being happy” all the time. Maybe we need another approach. For instance: Why are people “unhappy”? You might say, that they made the wrong decision, but nobody consciously makes the decision to be “unhappy”.
So there must be something else. It occurred to me that people might be “unhappy” because they don’t live the life of the being that they truly are, because they don’t live an authentic life. Maybe people have decided at some point to play the roles that other people wanted or expected them to play. When you are a hammer, and you play the role of a saw for your father, the role of a screw driver for your teacher, and the role of a wrench for your employer, you cannot be happy, of course. And yet, this is what a lot of people do. They play the role that their parents, their teachers, and their employers want them to play. Apart from being “unhappy”, because they don’t live the life of their Real Self, they become stressed and maybe sick because of all the different roles they have to play. The different roles tear them apart.
The more I think about it, the more I am convinced that true and lasting “happiness” is the result of being what we really are. So, the decision to be “happy”, can be replaced by the decision to be who and what we really are.